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Cinique' Said,
September 11th, 2010 @6:41 am  


It would seem to me as though he does have some sort of fondness for you from your explanations, but I would not pursue it. Unfortunately, as you have mentioned, he is married with a child and any person that will cheat or leave their spouse will do the same thing to you. “It is our choices…that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.” – J.K. Rowling – This may not be what you wanted to hear but, I will confirm that there is definitely some sort of attraction, based off your details. He will not cross the line with you because of his family, and you should respect that and pursue some other type of relationship. Lust, obsession, confusion, and sleep loss are really dangerous things when combined. I suggest you check your moral fibers and rethink your path, before someone gets hurt. I hope this helps. If you have any further questions contact me by email and we can discuss further. Keep me posted. God bless you.

Cinique Scott

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September 11th, 2010 @3:08 am  

Dear C,

I’m afraid it’s unanimous. I agree with everything that’s already been said. I would add, however, that you need to think long and hard about getting involved with any married man. Too many women are willing to justify that behavior by saying they owe nothing to the man’s wife. That’s not true. Not only does he owe her his loyalty, it is your responsibility as a human being to NOT participate in behavior that will hurt another. You cannot predicate your happiness or another’s unhappiness. If and when this man becomes free and if and then you still have feelings for him, fine. Until then, behave yourself and focus on finding someone who is available. If necessary, look for another job and get yourself out of the situation.

Shela Dean
Relationship Coach, Speaker & Author of Frequent Foreplay Miles, Your Ticket to Total Intimacy

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September 10th, 2010 @6:11 pm  

Hey C:

I echo the sentiments of the previous posters. You need to stop fixating on your boss. You could lose your job and this is not a good thing in this economy. In no way should you tell him of your feelings or act on them.

You really need to find a single can who can return your interest and stop fixating on a guy who is not available. Do you really want to break up your bosse’s marriage for your own selfish desires?

Blessings on you and yours
John Wilder blog

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September 10th, 2010 @6:00 pm  

Dear C:

I agree with Jay. He is married so it does not matter if he likes you or attracted to you. You should do some self reflecting work to see why you would want to get involved with someone who is clearly not available. A great book is “Are You The One For Me” by Beverly De Angelis. It can help you look at your life experiences and why you chose the men you chose. A good question to ask yourself is do you often pick unavailable men?

Good luck,

Robbie Lee

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September 10th, 2010 @2:56 pm  

First off, you said you have been SEEING your boss. But the more I READ, it sounds like you’ve just KNOWN him for a year. You’re not “seeing” him (i.e. dating)

But regardless, THAT IS IRRELEVANT!

Him being attracted to you is NOT THE ISSUE.

The fact is, he’s MARRIED.

So if you’re expecting him to leave his WIFE over you, it’s not gonna happen, ESPECIALLY if you have to WONDER whether he even LIKES you or not.

Even if he DID tell you he liked you, THEN what? Are you hoping you can date him or sleep with him or even BE with him? Well, let me tell you that one and two might happen, but #3 will NOT.

Even if you DO get close and start dating/having sex, THAT’S where it’ll stay. It won’t go any FURTHER than that. Which means you’ll be even MORE obsessed with this man, and STILL not be able to BE with him.

So really, it DOESN’T MATTER whether or not he’s attracted to you. This “He touched my shoulder once and he asked me a question yesterday” stuff has you sounding like a schoolgirl with a crush on her TEACHER. It’s gotta STOP!

I KNOW this isn’t what you wanna HEAR, but it is DEFINITELY what you NEED to hear. People don’t often DO what they NEED to do though, so I’m SURE my advice will go ignored.

However, if you actually WANNA try & better yourself, and do what’s necessary, feel free to email me at:

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