C Asked:
“I’m hugely attracted to my boss. I have been seeing him for more than a year now and my feelings for him are really growing in me. I’m not sure if he feels the same for me or not but i find myself thinking about him all the time. I’m losing my sleep over him.
He is married, about 4-5 yrs older to me and has a daughter too. I tried to notice his body language and sometimes i feel the feelings are mutual. But since both of us are the way we are – i mean not very expressive… i dont know if any of us will / can openly talk about our feelings.
I’m listing down a few instances where i have felt he might be attracted to me as well. I really need help in confirming my thoughts:
?Our houses are very close to each other – I mean same area etc. He initially used to hesitate to drop me home as he had to pick his wife on the way. These days he asks me if he can drop me and is also OK if he has to pick his wife on the way.
? Just some days back, he even asked me to come to his place (just like that). He is a very shy / reserved / non-social kind of person so this really makes me feel he is interested?
? Our team was going out in one of the office parties. I told him i might not join and he had no plans too. But suddenly he changed his mind and asked me 2-3 times if i’m going or not. I had no plans and left for home. He messaged me again and asked me if I was coming or not … He didn’t ask anyone else.
? These days he also looks deep in my eyes (not “stare” though) and sometimes i have seen him giving me “bedroom” kind of eyes. I also caught him checking me out a couple of times – he hasnt ever complimented me ever though. He is a shy and very non-vocal kind of person. I don’t know how to read these signals … not sure if this was pure co-incidence. “Bedroom” eyes – maybe he was too bored with what I was saying…I have no clue… : (
? We went out for a movie (with the office people) and since I’m really badly attracted to him … I made sure to sit next to him. I felt at times he was accidently touching my elbow and if mine touched his, he wouldnt move his arm. I also feel when we are left alone in a room, there’s some tension in the air. I dont know how to interpret this or he feels it this way or not.
? I dont see him preening too much (infact not at all) when he sees me, or dont remember him displaying any kind of alpha-male behavior. When we are alone and talking about things… sometimes his body faces me totally but not always. I’m badly confused if he is really giving me any signs.
?He hasnt asked me out otherwise… may be coz he is confused too if we share a mutual attraction. If i’m unwell or something, he always asks if i’m fine… i feel he cares for me. But he does not call me to ask OR hasnt ever called me without any reason.
? He keeps me involved in all meetings even if its not related to what i can do/ or is in my scope of work.
My feelings for my boss are totally out of my control. I’m really confused, obsessed and keep thinking about my boss all the
time. I really need to know if my boss shares the same feelings and if he is attracted to me like I am. thanks!!”
- C (28)
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C
It would seem to me as though he does have some sort of fondness for you from your explanations, but I would not pursue it. Unfortunately, as you have mentioned, he is married with a child and any person that will cheat or leave their spouse will do the same thing to you. “It is our choices…that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.” – J.K. Rowling – This may not be what you wanted to hear but, I will confirm that there is definitely some sort of attraction, based off your details. He will not cross the line with you because of his family, and you should respect that and pursue some other type of relationship. Lust, obsession, confusion, and sleep loss are really dangerous things when combined. I suggest you check your moral fibers and rethink your path, before someone gets hurt. I hope this helps. If you have any further questions contact me by email and we can discuss further. Keep me posted. God bless you.
Cinique Scott
Cinique.Scott@yahoo.com
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