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December 4th, 2009 @3:33 pm  

You need to move on. I know that you will probably not do this, but you need to. Your friend wants to have you as a non-sexual friend and keep her boyfriend for sex. She needs to learn that she can’t have it both ways and you should not be a doormat for her. If you continue in this, she will never respect you or be your boyfriend. If you do move on, then there is a chance that she will dump boyfriend and want to be with you.

marriagecoach1@yahoo.com

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mygif
December 4th, 2009 @1:56 pm  

Dear Uzzal,

Cut off all contact with your friend. She has made her decision by staying with her boyfriend. She is not married. If she truly loves you, she will leave him to be with you.

Move on to a woman and relationship who will put Uzzal first, not second.

Take care and be strong!

Kim Hess Divorce Guru
http://www.KimHess.com

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Porsche Simpson Said,
December 4th, 2009 @12:03 pm  

Uzzal,
if your bf is truly in love with you then she will breakup with her boyfriend so you two can be together. I understand that they’ve been together for 5 years, but she’s hurting him more and more each day since she knows she’s really in love with you. She’s hurting you also. Either you guys will agree that you’ll never be together since you’re around each other, in love but still have yet to make the commitment. Are you okay with being strung around until she’s ready to end things with her bf? You deserve to be with the woman you love, especially if he loves you back. Tell her to make a decision. Good luck

Porsche Simpson
Single Girl in San Diego
http://www.singlegirlinsandiego.com

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mygif
December 4th, 2009 @11:42 am  

Hi Uzzal

As long as she is still involved with a boyfriend, then she remains off limits to you! It seems to me that you both have been holding onto to emotions without expressing them. I would suggest that you move on. It does not seem to me from what little you said that she is ready for any relationship? Even the one she is currently in?

Save yourself the drama and heartbreak and just be friends, if you find this too difficult then move on. Why are you going to wait for her when she has made it perfectly clear that she is not ready! Why are you standing on the sidelines pining away for her? You could be missing out on finding the right girl for you?

On ocassion there are people whom we love and nothing else ever comes of it,because of one reason or another. If it is meant to be then all will fall into place and you won’t have to ask anyone…”What do I do?”

good luck

Gina Landeau
Hello Ms Heartbreak, I’ve been expecting you!

HelloMsHeartbreak@yahoo.com

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mygif
December 4th, 2009 @3:22 am  

Honestly, I’m not even sure I understand the QUESTION. You said: “I told her that if i were not there then everything then be all right.” Can you explain this?

Anyway, moving on now…

If she’s in love with you, but won’t break up with her boyfriend, it means one of three things:

1: She loves him just as much as (if not more than) she loves you.
2: She feels OBLIGATED to be with him, for whatever reason.
3: She’d just rather be with him than be with you.

Now, as much as that sucks to HEAR, you have to be LOGICAL here. If she wanted to be with you (I mean REALLY wanted to be with you) she WOULD be. Sure, she might have FEELINGS for you, but OBVIOUSLY (for some reason) her loyalty and dedication right now is to her current relationship.

JayTheAdviceMan@aol.com

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Suzanne White Montiel Said,
December 4th, 2009 @1:29 am  

Dear Uzzal,

Either try to make the romantic love relationship work or don’t. Stop hiding your feelings or move on.

She has to either break up with her boyfriend or be with him. It seems as though you two can’t be “just” friends considering your love for each other.

Just know there is no “the one” and you both have probably made your feelings out to be way more than they are because a romantic relationship seemed unobtainable.

Go for it or move on. Yes, it really is that simple.

Sincerely,

Suzanne White Montiel
SF Sex and Relationships Examiner
http://www.examiner.com/x-14163-SF-Sex-and-Relationships-Examiner

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mygif
December 4th, 2009 @12:05 am  

You should get a life and stop your obsession with this girl. No healthy relationship will ever have this much emotional baggage attached to it.

Anthony Hernandez
http://www.theenlightenedsavage.com

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