Dave Asked:
“Well, I have known this woman for about 4 months. We get along great and hang out from time to time. We are pretty straight forward with each other and enjoy each others company. Recently I had asked her if she would consider giving someone like me a shot and go out on a date one night. Her response was that all I would have to do is try and make a move. I then said to myself that was pretty easy. I then told her that I have been checking her out since day one and that I was always interested in her and that she did not realize that and thought I wanted to be friends at first. I told her that the times we have hung out that it was all in bars and that it’s not my style to attempt to slobber all up on you and grope you in a bar. i said that I consider taking her out on a one on one date and doing the right way. Her response was thank goodness. She has also told me that many guys have failed with her trying to get with her by thinking they can do what they want due to her flirtatious activites. Now the problem I am having is just trying to get that date with her. Our schedules are always conflicting. Either she is working or I am not or vice versa. She is also a very flirtatious girl from what I notice and it’s hard to distinguish from innocent flirting to if she is really into another guy or not. She will do this when I am around when we were hanging out but to be fair I hadn’t mentioned the fact I wanted to take her out yet. So recently we hung out at a bar and I noticed that there was another guy I have seen around her a few times before and he was trying to hug her and getting up all in her space, she didn’t seem to responsive to his advances however, there was a point in the night where they starting arguing and it made me think if she was seeing him. I then went up to her and asked her if everything is ok with her. She said yeah. I then asked her if she was seeing him because his friends said in his mind that he was. I told them that’s not what I heard and I talked to the source and she said no they are not. I then played it cool and mentioned that even though I would still like to take you out that she is still a single woman and she can do whatever she wants and that I don’t want to be a fool in asking you out if you are seeing someone else and said that would be disrespecful on my part if I were to do that and I don’t go about things that way in that manner. Basically my question is that should I be patient with this woman and when the time comes to go out one on one? I mean she already gave me the green light when she said make a move and I would have to try. It’s just frustrating waiting for our schedules to conflict. She still invites me out to parties and group events and she contacts me daily saying good morning and good night. I know I have the opening and feel good about the situation but, getting the opportunity to be in the situation is frustrating. What should I do? Be patient or just forget it?”
- Dave (30, Brooklyn, NY)
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Take her out see if the spark is there. If you feels she’s giving you the run around when you ask about the date. Move on! Your too old for games. And in the end it will get you no where. If she seems to like you then she probably does, so set a date and time and go for it.
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