Adam Asked:
“My girlfriend and I have been dating on and off for 2 1/2 years. She is 29 and I am 30. The relationship she was in before lasted 6 years and was the only one she had been in prior to ours. He was 27 and she was 20 when they met. They broke up many times as well as walked away from an engagement. She was not completely honest about her feelings for him when we began dating and because of that She has never let go of him and vice versa. Although he does not live near us and I am sure she has not physically cheated on me she continues to keep an open dialog with him that pushes the boundaries of platonic friendship. When confronted about this she has lied about their communicating on more than one occation. I think that they use each other as an emotional fallback when they are in need of attention. It has become such a problem that by not ending the communication I doubt she truly respects me and my position on the subject. She has tried to stop texting and emailing him but eventually it starts up again. He is also in a new relationship and is not honest with his partner either. I am starting to doubt her morals and feel truly disrespected.”
- Adam (30, Kansas City, MO)
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Adam-
Let me ask you this, what exactly are your boundaries and non negotiables? Because it sounds to me like you got yourself involved with someone who wasn’t and still isn’t emotionally available. That’s a deal breaker in my book. If you don’t want to be second fiddle , draw the line. Or should you simply feel as you said this is really a matter of morals and respect I say you have done your due diligence and see that this person and you have different definitions of each. The way I see it you have a few choices ;if you’re a patient guy who believes she is worth the wait, do nothing and hope she loses interest in which case it was a matter of time which they say heals all wounds, b) set a real clear boundary, ie, no more contact or I am out or c) Or simply back up a little and move your selves to dating status rather than boy friend and girlfriend, which is probably most appropriate given she seems to be torn. This way you can see other people and at the same time let her reevaluate just how much you mean to her! Best of luck!
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