Monte Asked:
“I’m currently in the National Guard and I have been courting a girl i’ve known for years for over a year. She happens to be training in the Air Force right now. We’ve liked each other for a long time, however we haven’t been able to maintain a real relationship because of other obstacles besides the distance. She was able to come home over christmas time and visit and it was the happiest I’ve been in a long time. Over the last year we have both slipped. She got with and almost got married to someone she didn’t figure the relationship would last with anyway, and I lost my virginity to a girl that didnt care about me cause I lost all hope of being with her. All of this because we couldnt be together at the time. When I got to see her, before she left I asked her out since I had the chance. She declined because she doesnt want a long-distance relationship. I told her I was planning on going active-duty anyway(which I am) but she still said no because we dont know the details yet. Basically in order to be with the girl I fell for I’ve gotta make a lot of life changing decisions. We know we love each other, we are very passionate together and we fancy each other as our soulmates. I dont wanna lose her shes the most important thing in my life right now. Im just confused on how to make things work.”
- Monte (22)
Rate This Post:
Did you like this article? Submit it to your favorite social bookmarking sites:
Monte,
A long distance relationship requires an enormous amount of work. While I am in no way underestimating your feelings for one another. I could’nt help but ponder over you saying that in order to be with her you have alot of “life changing” decisions you have to make. Relationships require some sacrifices on both parts. You can’t change your whole life to be with someone and nor should they ask of you. I think you both need to find some middle ground and if there’s a way to make it work I say go for it. But realize the work and effort it will take. But most importantly know your limits as well. It will be hard to love and stay optimistic when the one you care for is thousands of miles away. But if you both want it to work then great. If you want it to work and will do whatever to make it happen, including giving up what makes you happy. Then I think you will be in for a rude awakening.
Like or Dislike:
0 
0