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mygif
February 11th, 2010 @9:07 am  

Ok, no driver’s license, no citizenship and a minimum pay job? What is it exactly that you think you have to offer her? There is more here then meets the eye, I highly suggest that you work on getting the basic things you need to live a successful life? If she is in Korea, then what reason do you think she has to come back? I understand that you’ve been dating for 4 years, but all in all, you did not have what she envisioned for a long term relationship or romance. Let it go and concentrate on you, she is many many miles away living a life that you possibly have no idea about? Let it go and do what you need to do, the right woman will come around for you when all else falls into place….

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Gina Landeau
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mygif
Porsche Simpson Said,
February 7th, 2010 @12:56 am  

Javier,
she made the decision herself not to see you any longer. Even if her friends said their opinions on your relationship, ultimately it was her choice to decide on your future. My question to you is, if she’s living in Korea with a job, why are you even worried about her? Does she plan to move back to the states and be with you or what?
Times are definitely rough and the economy has taken its toll, I think this is a sign that you need to focus on yourself and your future and not a relationship. Sure it’s easier said than done since you have four years of history but it should be a bit easier to move on since she isn’t even living in the United States. Things happen for a reason and I think it’s time you met someone that will respect and appreciate what you have and NOT what you don’t have.

Porsche Simpson
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mygif
Suzanne White Montiel Said,
February 6th, 2010 @2:29 pm  

Dear Javier,

Don’t worry about her, worry about yourself. You are over 30 so that means you should have a few things accomplished in your life.

You need to get yourself in order before you worry about adding more responsibilities – like a wife and children – to your life. Try doing something with your own life.

Yes, it is you, and it is her friends. Four years is plenty of time to realize that she wants more from life than you can currently provide, whether she was influenced by her friends or not. You, too, should want more from life.

Sincerely,

Suzanne White Montiel
SF Sex and Relationships Examiner
http://www.examiner.com/x-14163-SF-Sex-and-Relationships-Examiner

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mygif
February 6th, 2010 @9:56 am  

While I understand her argument about you being 34 with no job or license, I DON’T agree with the way she HANDLED it. If she was ok with it for almost 4 YEARS already, why is it SUDDENLY a PROBLEM? She’s being influenced, definitely. But don’t blame her friends. Blame HER for getting all caught UP in all that.

So even though you SHOULD have yourself together a little better, I’m IGNORING that fact, based on how your girl HANDLED the situation and just started ignoring YOU. So it’s time to turn this AROUND on her:

Write her back & say, “Ok. So it was OKAY for the last 4 YEARS that I didn’t have a job or license, but NOW it’s suddenly a PROBLEM. Well, I can’t be with a girl who only wants a man for what he HAS instead of how he TREATS her. So go find a guy who’s more independent. But if he cheats on you or abuses you, don’t come crying to ME. After all, he’ll have a job and a license, which is the most important thing, right? So have fun!”

After that, do NOT contact her again.

Also, how old is this girl? You guys in the U.S.? You mentioned a citizenship. Any reason why you don’t have all that stuff?

http://www.TopNotchAdvice.webs.com

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mygif
February 5th, 2010 @7:25 pm  

Dude you need to get yourself together and make improvements. She is right. Women’s number one need is security and you have no way to give it to her or anybody else. Get to work on yourself

marriagecoach1@yahoo.com
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