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Suzanne White Montiel Said,
July 10th, 2010 @4:46 pm  

Dear Jessica,

The only thing you can do as a friend is to be a friend. That means expressing your opinion about the guy and then stepping back.

You may know the guy is a jerk, but your friend has to learn for herself. If or when she finds out for herself, you need to be a supportive friend. Don’t tell her you were right and she was wrong, just tell her you’re sorry she’s been hurt.

People have to learn for themselves.


Suzanne White Montiel
SF Sex and Relationships Examiner

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July 10th, 2010 @3:27 am  

Hi, Jessica —

One of the most difficult things to do is helplessly watch a friend make what you think is a mistake. However, unless she asks for your advice about this guy, all you can do is support her, continue to befriend her, and be there to help her when/if the relationship ends. If, in fact, he’s a player, she’ll find out soon enough.

Shela Dean
Relationship Coach, Speaker & Bestselling Author

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July 9th, 2010 @4:45 pm  

Hey Jessica

It is likely that your friend knows but does not want to face the fact that the guy is a player. She is happy to be going out. I don’t think that you can help her, she will likely get mad at you for forcing her to facing the truth.

Blessings on you and yours

John Wilder blog

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