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2010

Ask Our Relationship Experts: How do I get my husband to love me and be interested in me like when we first started dating?

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advice.lovedetour.com Ask Our Relationship Experts: How do I get my husband to love me and be interested in me like when we first started dating? askourexperts2 imageMia Asked:

“My husband doesn’t seem very into me these days. 10 years later and three kids, I can’t seem to grab his attention anymore. I just feel like a terrible complaining wife, I look tired, I am tired, and It’s super hard being at home with kids all day. I just don’t know what I should do to make my marriage more enjoyable. Plus I know he works with beautiful professional women all day…and he has to come home to tired ol’ me. Any advise would help.”

- Mia (29, Minneapolis, MN)


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Suzanne White Montiel Said,
July 7th, 2010 @4:31 pm  

Dear Mia,

Why not try being honest with your husband? Tell him that the life the two of you have chosen is feeling overwhelming right now. Chances are, he, too, feels overwhelmed by so many responsibilities.

Planning some kid-free activities with each other may be a good idea as well.

Good luck.

Sincerely,

Suzanne White Montiel
SF Sex and Relationships Examiner
http://www.examiner.com/x-14163-SF-Sex-and-Relationships-Examiner

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Jason Love Said,
July 3rd, 2010 @8:06 am  

Why not go & get a makeover?

Buy a sexy new outfit and be wearing it for him when he gets home from work one day.

Go online & find BEAUTY tips.

Or hell, ask one of the women at his job to help you because you really want to impress him.

Have you ever ASKED him if he was no longer attracted to you? Does he know you FEEL this way?

JayTheAdviceMan@aol.com

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Shela Dean Said,
July 3rd, 2010 @4:39 am  

Dear Mia,

John Wilder has given you some great advice and I hope you follow it. There’s a wonderful book by Anne Morrow Lindbergh–”Gift From the Sea”–that I recommend you buy and read. It’s a quick read and a lovely reminder of how important it is for women to take care of themselves in order to continuing giving to all those we care for.

Also, it’s not uncommon for a couple to pour themselves into their children and neglect their relationship. The best gift you give your kids is a happy and loving marriage. You need to find time to be together, to date, to talk, to snuggle, and to create the emotional intimacy that sustains you as a couple. Talk it over with your husband and engage him in making the revival of your relationship a joint effort. If possible, plan a get-away weekend where the two of you have time alone to remember why you fell in love in the first place and have the uninterrupted time to have that talk. It’s easy to fall into a rut, especially with 3 children to care for. With a little effort, you can climb out of that rut.

Best,
Shela Dean
Relationship Coach, Speaker & Bestselling Author
http://www.ShelaDean.com
http://www.FrequentForeplayMiles.com

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John Wilder Said,
July 2nd, 2010 @2:15 pm  

Hey Mia:

I suggest that you check out different churches that will watch your kids for free so that you can get out and have lunch with a girlfriend. Or you could make plans with another stay at home mom to take turns watching the kids so that you can get out and shop, have lunch and have a life. Another thing that you cold do is to have the neighbor watch your kids for 24 hours so that you could sleep in and be completely refreshed.

You could also take a vacation with just you and hubby and leave the kids with relatives.

Have a little shopping spree and buy something lovely and sexy like a cute and short sundress. Buy a little new lingerie and splurge and buy some lacy and frilly lingerie. You will feel pretty and sexy and your hubby will appreciate it.

Maybe do a spa day or afternoon and pamper yourself a little.

You are right to be concerned and want to have a marriage and a sex life. It is worth working on for both you and hubby and kids. You just need some me time to be refreshed. Maybe go out for an afternoon matinee.

Blessings on you and yours
John Wilder

marriagecoach1@yahoo.com

marriagecoach1.wordpress.com blog

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