Comments on: Ask Our Relationship Experts: He Cheated on me, but had he ever truly loved me? http://advice.lovedetour.com/Admin/ask-our-relationship-experts-he-cheated-on-me-but-had-he-ever-truly-loved-me.html Expert advice to get your relationships back on track Fri, 10 Feb 2012 21:32:47 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: He Cheated On Me » understanding male behavior, love relationship dating advice http://advice.lovedetour.com/Admin/ask-our-relationship-experts-he-cheated-on-me-but-had-he-ever-truly-loved-me.html/comment-page-1#comment-737 He Cheated On Me » understanding male behavior, love relationship dating advice Sat, 24 Oct 2009 03:55:53 +0000 http://advice.lovedetour.com/?p=3989#comment-737 [...] Dianna wrote in, stating that her relationship ended when she discovered that her boyfriend of “3 months and 29 days” had been cheating on her. While Dianna admits to finding several convincing pieces of evidence suggesting her boyfriend was cheating, she believed his excuses, especially since he treated her nicely and told her he loved her. When Dianna ran into him coupled with another young lady in public, she confronted them to discover that he not only had no explanation for his actions, but ignored Dianna and gave her the cold shoulder while completely while professing his love and apologies to the other woman. Although the cat’s out the bag, to this day, Dianna’s heart and emotions are still raw. She wonders whether or not this man ever truly loved her. “He cheated on me, but did he ever truly love me once? Or was I just a plaything in his eyes the w...?” [...] [...] Dianna wrote in, stating that her relationship ended when she discovered that her boyfriend of “3 months and 29 days” had been cheating on her. While Dianna admits to finding several convincing pieces of evidence suggesting her boyfriend was cheating, she believed his excuses, especially since he treated her nicely and told her he loved her. When Dianna ran into him coupled with another young lady in public, she confronted them to discover that he not only had no explanation for his actions, but ignored Dianna and gave her the cold shoulder while completely while professing his love and apologies to the other woman. Although the cat’s out the bag, to this day, Dianna’s heart and emotions are still raw. She wonders whether or not this man ever truly loved her. “He cheated on me, but did he ever truly love me once? Or was I just a plaything in his eyes the w…?” [...]

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]]> By: Porsche Simpson http://advice.lovedetour.com/Admin/ask-our-relationship-experts-he-cheated-on-me-but-had-he-ever-truly-loved-me.html/comment-page-1#comment-716 Porsche Simpson Thu, 15 Oct 2009 19:59:26 +0000 http://advice.lovedetour.com/?p=3989#comment-716 Dianna, i think there was a little of both. Yes there are players in the world and this guy surely was one, but i'm sure he had feelings for you since he did spend personal time. What's more important is that you shouldn't even be worried about this loser. I know its easier said than done but to even want to spend time thinking if a guy you dated had feelings for you while he was dating someone else just isn't important. What you need to do is learn from this and pay more attention with the next man. He could have been so in love with you but (or said that) but how truthful is anything he's ever told you when he had another girl on the side. You will meet a better man and more lame ones, just make sure you ditch the bad ones as soon as you can and NEVER look back. Porsche Simpson Single Girl in San Diego http://www.singlegirlinsandiego.com Dianna,
i think there was a little of both. Yes there are players in the world and this guy surely was one, but i’m sure he had feelings for you since he did spend personal time. What’s more important is that you shouldn’t even be worried about this loser. I know its easier said than done but to even want to spend time thinking if a guy you dated had feelings for you while he was dating someone else just isn’t important. What you need to do is learn from this and pay more attention with the next man. He could have been so in love with you but (or said that) but how truthful is anything he’s ever told you when he had another girl on the side. You will meet a better man and more lame ones, just make sure you ditch the bad ones as soon as you can and NEVER look back.

Porsche Simpson
Single Girl in San Diego
http://www.singlegirlinsandiego.com

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]]> By: Jason Love http://advice.lovedetour.com/Admin/ask-our-relationship-experts-he-cheated-on-me-but-had-he-ever-truly-loved-me.html/comment-page-1#comment-712 Jason Love Thu, 15 Oct 2009 09:05:09 +0000 http://advice.lovedetour.com/?p=3989#comment-712 Rule #11 in my book -- "DONT IGNORE THE WARNING SIGNS!!!!" You NOTICED the signs, yet you ALLOWED him to explain everything AWAY to you. Do you know WHY? It's because you didn't WANT to believe this guy was bad. You didn't WANT to believe anything was wrong. So, INSTEAD, you believed HIM. The fact is, EVIDENCE IN YOUR FACE = MUCH STRONGER than weak ass EXPLANATIONS for it. REMEMBER that. FURTHERMORE, I can SEE you want CLOSURE, by asking us whether or not this guy ever really loved you. You're HOPING it's YES. But WHY? Will that make it BETTER? Would that take the PAIN away? Would that make you wanna FORGIVE HIM? Diana, WHY is that answer SOOO IMPORTANT to you? He may have LIKED you, but the bottom line is, OBVIOUSLY NOT ENOUGH! If he got caught two timing, and chose THE OTHER GIRL, RIGHT IN FRONT OF YOU, then how much love could he POSSIBLY FEEL for you? Not a lot, right? So, as much as it sucks to READ, I think THERE is your ANSWER! Just don't get sucked back IN by him, now that you're OUT. That's the BIGGEST MISTAKE you can MAKE right now. Rule #11 in my book — “DONT IGNORE THE WARNING SIGNS!!!!”

You NOTICED the signs, yet you ALLOWED him to explain everything AWAY to you. Do you know WHY? It’s because you didn’t WANT to believe this guy was bad. You didn’t WANT to believe anything was wrong. So, INSTEAD, you believed HIM.

The fact is, EVIDENCE IN YOUR FACE = MUCH STRONGER than weak ass EXPLANATIONS for it. REMEMBER that.

FURTHERMORE, I can SEE you want CLOSURE, by asking us whether or not this guy ever really loved you. You’re HOPING it’s YES. But WHY? Will that make it BETTER? Would that take the PAIN away? Would that make you wanna FORGIVE HIM? Diana, WHY is that answer SOOO IMPORTANT to you?

He may have LIKED you, but the bottom line is, OBVIOUSLY NOT ENOUGH! If he got caught two timing, and chose THE OTHER GIRL, RIGHT IN FRONT OF YOU, then how much love could he POSSIBLY FEEL for you? Not a lot, right?

So, as much as it sucks to READ, I think THERE is your ANSWER! Just don’t get sucked back IN by him, now that you’re OUT. That’s the BIGGEST MISTAKE you can MAKE right now.

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]]> By: Suzanne White Montiel http://advice.lovedetour.com/Admin/ask-our-relationship-experts-he-cheated-on-me-but-had-he-ever-truly-loved-me.html/comment-page-1#comment-708 Suzanne White Montiel Thu, 15 Oct 2009 06:22:42 +0000 http://advice.lovedetour.com/?p=3989#comment-708 Dear Dianna, At your tender age you may think it's important to know if your ex ever "really" loved you. It is not. It doesn't matter. He was probably truthful when he told you he didn't know. Feelings are not as easy to identify as shapes and colors. What is important is that you identify what was good and bad about your relationship and your ex-boyfriend and seek out relationships with people that fulfill your needs. You are young, you've plenty of time. Suzanne White Montiel http://www.examiner.com/x-14163-SF-Sex-and-Relationships-Examiner Dear Dianna,

At your tender age you may think it’s important to know if your ex ever “really” loved you. It is not. It doesn’t matter.

He was probably truthful when he told you he didn’t know. Feelings are not as easy to identify as shapes and colors.

What is important is that you identify what was good and bad about your relationship and your ex-boyfriend and seek out relationships with people that fulfill your needs.

You are young, you’ve plenty of time.

Suzanne White Montiel
http://www.examiner.com/x-14163-SF-Sex-and-Relationships-Examiner

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]]> By: Anthony Hernandez http://advice.lovedetour.com/Admin/ask-our-relationship-experts-he-cheated-on-me-but-had-he-ever-truly-loved-me.html/comment-page-1#comment-701 Anthony Hernandez Wed, 14 Oct 2009 23:26:42 +0000 http://advice.lovedetour.com/?p=3989#comment-701 Dianna, I'm not sure how much more self-evident the answer can be. Obviously he never cared about you. If I were you, I'd forget about him and find out why you are so incapable of reading such obvious signals right from the beginning. Counting the exact number of days you've been together tells me that you are very naive and have a lot of personal issues to overcome before you can even begin to think yourself ready for another serious relationship. The bottom line is that if you don't respect yourself, no one else will ever respect you. Anthony Hernandez www.theenlightenedsavage.com Dianna,

I’m not sure how much more self-evident the answer can be. Obviously he never cared about you. If I were you, I’d forget about him and find out why you are so incapable of reading such obvious signals right from the beginning. Counting the exact number of days you’ve been together tells me that you are very naive and have a lot of personal issues to overcome before you can even begin to think yourself ready for another serious relationship. The bottom line is that if you don’t respect yourself, no one else will ever respect you.

Anthony Hernandez
http://www.theenlightenedsavage.com

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