B-rad Asked:
“I am really good friends with this girl and would like to take it to the next level. She has some reservations about this because of her son. She is afraid to get close to anybody as they have already had one man walk out, and she doesn’t want him to have another walk out on him. Is there anything that I can do to better show her that I don’t have any intentions of getting close only to walk out.”
- B-rad (25)
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It’s actually pretty easy.
Tell her “If your son was a problem, or if that were too much for me, I would have bailed as soon as you told me. The fact that I’m still here should tell you something.”
That ^^ ALONE should be enough to make her at least CONSIDER letting her guard down.
I mean think about it. Is she just gonna be single for the rest of her life because she fears that a man MIGHT WALK OUT on her? She’s gonna give a guy a chance EVENTUALLY, so it might as well be a guy who’s actually WORTH it. (i.e. YOU)
The LAST thing she’d want to is to keep you OUT, then REGRET it because you’re a good guy, then let her guard DOWN for the NEXT guy, letting HIM IN, then get HURT because HE really WAS a bad guy.
There’s a whole section about this in my book actually. Rule #8 is “The Walls You Put Up”. It’s all about how women work, the walls they put up, shutting out the RIGHT guys, and letting in the WRONG ones.
I think you should just relax, and not try to push it. Just continue to get closer to her, and show her your true colors. Then, when the time is right, she’ll know she can TRUST you.
Just beware, SOME women are too scared to let you in no matter HOW good you seem. So, you can’t FORCE it.
In fact, trying to convince her she SHOULD give you a chance, is sometimes worse than just saying “Well, I’m not into games. I’m a grown man. I won’t leave you. But if you can’t trust that, then I will respect your wishes and pursue someone else.”
She’ll likely change her tune a little bit, if she feels like she’s LOSING you.
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