Cut your losses, dude. This one is leading no where but to heartache. “Love” is not now, nor has it ever been, enough to hold a relationship together. There is only one difference between fulfilling long-lasting relationships and fly-by-night ones – commitment to commitment. Not commitment to love; not commitment to eachother – but commitment to commitment.

Feelings change when the wind blows; sometimes you’ll like eachother – then you won’t; frequently you’ll love eachother – then you won’t. The foundation bedrock of long-lasting relationships is commitment to commitment. Nothing more, nothing less. This is obviously not what you have here.

Save it for when you’re older – like 30. For now, just enjoy yourself. Learn about the women in your world. Figure out what you can deal with and what you can’t. Date. Lots. Don’t be so quick to give your divine precious body away to everything that looks good to you. You’re a unique and priceless gift. Behave like it. And have fun.

All the best to you.

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Dear Skyler,

I know this is a painful and heartbreaking time for you to realize that the person you love does not share the same feelings for you anymore. Even though you are young, it is important to be very mindful of the type of person you allow into your intimate circle. What may be going through your mind is that she will suddenly realize that she loves you once you are out of her life and will want to come back to you.

The type of relationship you have now – one where you are with someone who doesn’t love you the way she did in the beginning is not a good relationship pattern for you to set up. If you mentally and emotionally tell yourself that you will take the crumbs of life, then you will find that type of pattern repeat not only in love, but other important areas of life.

There is no reason why you cannot be in a loving, emotionally healthy, trusting relationship with someone who shares your life goals, values and morals.

One important exercise I ask my clients to do is to compose a visualization for the type of person they desire to ultimately share their life with long term. Even though you probably are not at that point right now to consider marriage, it is a step that you can do today so you can start drawing in people who share similar life goals. If you can see yourself in the type of relationship you visualize, you will be able to eventually have that experience.

For now, my advice is to break off this relationship and allow God to open the right door to love in His perfect will and timing. You both deserve real and lasting love and by taking a stand for what you want at this point, you will be one day closer to the love you seek.

Nancy Pina
Relationship Expert & Author
http://www.rightrelationshipstv.com

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First off, NO @ the waiting game. That’s not the way to do it.

If she doesn’t know what she wants, then have her contact you when/if she figures it out. Have some PRIDE, man. Don’t just sit there like a puppy dog on a leash waiting for her to POSSIBLY decide that she wants you again. HELL no.

More importantly, use your HEAD. If her feelings have changed, GIVE HER THE GIFT OF MISSING YOU! It’s something we’ve all heard before, but many times, our EMOTIONS get in the way of ACTING on it. LET HER MISS YOU!

If you’re always around, READILY AVAILABLE to her, why WOULD she want you? She can HAVE you whenever she’s READY. And that’s not APPEALING to her. If it WAS, she’d be with you NOW.

The fact is, you guys are YOUNG. And YOUNG women, well, alot of times, their emotions CHANGE. Their interest in MEN changes. Their DESIRES change.

Read this article, man. I’m sure it can open your eyes a BUNCH after reading it:

http://advice.lovedetour.com/jlove/young-mens-dating-advice-young-love.html

Read ^^^ that.

Then, if you want to contact me for more help/advice, EMAIL me, man:

JayTheAdviceMan@aol.com

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