*****AFTER I give my OPINION, I’ll tell you HOW you can be with this guy, at the BOTTOM. Ok?*****

Look. If a guy is telling you he loves you, but WON’T leave his other GIRLFRIEND, he either:

A) doesn’t love you that much (at least not ENOUGH)
B) is too much of a wuss to end the other relationship
C) does NOT want to LEAVE HERRRRR

I don’t CARE what he says. UNTIL he leaves her (and I mean REALLY leaves her, not just TELLING you so) you can’t truly be with him.

Yeah, you might have sex with him and stuff (I dunno if you are NOW or NOT, but YOU know what you’re doing) but a RELATIONSHIP, and LOVE are TWO DIFFERENT THINGS, young girl. Remember that. And ACTIONS speak louder than words.

If I say “Damn I really wanna be famous” but I do NOTHING but sit on my COUCH all day (KNOWING that won’t bring me FAME) how bad do I REALLY WANT it? Sure, I may want it SOMEWHAT, but NOT enough to actually GO for it. You see where I’m going here?

Now, you MENTIONED your CHILD but the rest of the sentence didnt make sense. You said “I have a 3 1/2 yr old and my response to him when HE said I LOVE you was that he knows I’ve always cared for him…”

Uhh, if HE said I love you, don’t you mean YOUR response? He can’t respond to his own STATEMENT, lol. Also, what does this have to do with your KID?

Lastly, it’s COOL that you might be in love and wanna make this thing work. But in order to do it, you must tell him, “Listen. I love you & all that. But until you dump your girl, it just aint happenin. NO sex, NO romance, and no relationship. Dump her first, THEN we can talk. Until then, it won’t happen.”

I know you may love this guy so you might just wanna “take what you can GET”, without pushing him AWAY, but all that does is serve HIS ego, while HURTING YOUR HEART.

Think about it.

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Katie,

You were with your husband since the age of 13 and left him a year ago when you finally figured out that young love is not lifelong love.

You “hooked up” with another young guy who is in a codependent relationship with some gal who just figured out she needs a daddy for the babies she was too young and stupid to not have in the first place.

This guy says he loves you but does not have the stones to get out of his current relationship, so apparently he’s quite happy to tell people whatever he thinks they want to hear, for whatever reason.

All this and you honestly don’t know what to do? Come on, seriously? Are you really that unclear on just what a healthy relationship is?

OK, to prevent you from making another tremendous mistake, here is what you should do:

1) RUN don’t walk away from this guy.

2) Don’t even consider another serious relationship until you’ve sorted a few things out in your life and are truly ready for that kind of commitment. Date all you want, have as much sex as you want (with protection!), and enjoy your life. That is the whole point of your 20s. Then, in your early 30s, once you finally have things sorted out, you will eventually meet someone and realize that this time it’s different… and just as importantly, you’re ready for that difference.

3) When in doubt or when you feel tempted, refer to #2, above.

4) Take English courses and improve your spelling and grammar. That alone will serve you extremely well throughout your entire life.

Anthony Hernandez
http://www.theenlightenedsavage.com

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