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September 9th, 2008 @5:55 pm  

You clearly are feeling very insecure, which will show a lack of confidence to your partner. You definitely want to make sure you feel confident around her.

Start with self and work outward. When you begin to feel good about yourself, your partner will come around. Right now, she is looking for someone who can offer security, and you may not be up for that challange.

I don’t know how long you have been in the relationship, but what do you know about her? Make sure you work on building a foundation of transparency through effective communication. Ask questions that give you an answer about her, what she likes, dislikes, turn ons, turn offs, etc.

Too often in a relationship, we fail to ask the questions that matter. We think we love someone, but we are afraid to ask the questions we really want answers to out of fear we won’t hear what we want.

Ask all of the questions on your mind (not in a rapid fire manner). If you don’t get the answers you are looking for, it’s okay. It may be that she is not for you. However, you may stimulate some really great conversation and find out that she is an even more wonderful person than you initially thought.

Ask yourself what you ‘love’ about this person. How do you envision your life to be with her and without her. What about your life together? What kind of things would you do? This is how you can personally evaluate whether or not this person is right for you. If you don’t see yourself having fun together and growing closer over time, you may want to reconsider.

You can’t lie to yourself, and you can’t force a relationship. But with work, you can find out how you can stimulate each other and live a happy life together1

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