Chance Asked:

“So I’m head over heals in love with whom I presume to be my ex bestfriend. She and I went to the same school but then I went to high school. She knew about my feelings but she doesnt know the extent of them( she thinks I liked her) and now since she figured that out she’s been ignoring me and on top of that everyone I ask about her says she’s had sex with alot of guys and i just don’t know what to do please help me.”

- Chance (15, Prarieville, Louisiana)

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Sarah Asked:

“I have been with my boyfriend for 8 years and there are a couple of things that i cant get over, He watches porn all of the time constantly when i am work i feel like he has become an addict. i have keylogger so i know that he watches it alot. I have asked him to stop it and no matter what i say he doesnt . I feel like a maid i have 2 kids with him and i work while he stays at home. and when i come home from working the house is trashed, it feels like i get off one job and start another if i dont clean and do laundry it doesnt get done, again i have asked him to please help and he says that he was tired or lazy. but he had enough time to watch porn all day. what do i do i feel like i cant take much more of him he wants to not help with anything it is either eating watching porn or playing the xbox or watching movies. and as soon as i get hme most of the time he goes down to the basement or to a friends house, all i want is a working relationship that i am proud of and i seem so far away from my goal.”

- Sarah (24, OH)

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NewStart2011 Asked:

“I met this guy about a week ago, since then we have talked everyday. We got together and “hooked up”, I’m a little confused now, because now he tells me that he just wants to have fun and not jump into a relationship, he wants to take his time. He wants to hang out and be friends and doesn’t really want anyone to get attached because it could complicate things….So does this mean that he probably doesn’t want to talk to me anymore, or is he really looking to be a friend with benefits type thing? I’m not trying to jump into a relationship right now either, but I don’t know how to feel about what he said.”

- NewStart2011 (26, Virginia)

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Liia Asked:

“Lately I have been thinking that there probably is something I do wrong when communicating with men. And I have not really figured out what is it.

I am 33 year old woman and now single again after 4 year relationship. I have had couple of relationships before. Now I am trying to meet new men, although I am not desperate about finding someone. But for some reason even dating does not go the way I was hoping.
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Rosco Asked:

“After 8 yrs. and 3 children later for the 3rd time splitting up and our 2nd time when we split up it lasted 8 months and she put me on child support. well we reconciled and had 2 good yrs but now this time after splitting up and only going on 2 wks apart my ex already has another guy in her life. so my question is should i make an effort to win her back or just realize its time to end it and continue with my own life?”

- Rosco (25)

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C.J Asked:

“Last year my best friend moved to Nashville from Michigan. She ended up meeting a man a few months ago and recently announced she’s engaged. We were very happy and excited for her up until this week.

Allow me to backtrack slightly. I’m in my 40′s as is my friend. Though she is a lady, I’m a guy. We’ve been best friends for years to the point where she’s closer than my own sister. She was best person at my wedding and her kids (boy and girl both teens) were ushers. She and my wife are extremely close friends. We’ve watched her kids grow up (their dad is not in the picture), have babysat the kids on a multitude of occasions when my friend had to go out of town on business.

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Brandon Asked:

“I am a white guy, but I am mostly (perhaps only) attracted to black women, especially darker-skinned ones. I find them much more exotically alluring than other types of women. Unfortunately I’ve gotten mixed messages when I tell people I want a relationship with a black woman. Some of them are OK with it, but others accuse me of being racist, superficial, or both. My own parents seem to be in the latter camp. I don’t understand this opposition to my preferences—no one seems to care if other white guys seek out blondes, redheads, or even Asians, so why does my seeking out black women offend so many people? I should add that I don’t actually dislike white or other non-black women, and in fact I am platonic friends with some of them; I just don’t find them physically attractive. Am I still being racist?”

- Brandon (21, Monterey, CA, USA)

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Reesa Asked:

“We been together for four and half years.. we recently been broken up for six months. I told him i told him I liked being single and I thought I was out of love with him. Iam not. now he has afriend but they be kissing and having sex.. He told me he would like us to work on our relationship and that he still loves me and doesnt want to lose me as a friend. But he is not willing to let this friend go he said it wouldnt be right. I really dont know what to do.. I love him but he cant have both of us and he said he didnt want to let her go becuz he is not sure we will end up being back together. But how can you work on a relation if he is seeing someone else and having sex.”

- Reesa (45, Louisvile, Kentucky)

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He Asked:

“I was in a 9 month relationship and my gf at the time went through my emails around are 3rd month. I got a bad message from a girl and I sent a sarcastic remark back, if it were to be read with out my emotion behind it then it looks bad. My gf read it and thinks I am a cheater. Now I live on the west coast and this girl on the email lives in Australia. Is that enough to break her trust? I felt more violated with her going through my stuff in the first place. I gave her all my codes asking to get info while I was on the road. I am not a guy to cheat so why is she so paranoid??”

- He (30)

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1) Money makes you more of who you are: meaning, whatever your money issues or beliefs are, you bring them with you into your relationships. It’s almost always the case that whatever values and beliefs you have about money, you will die with—unless you’re willing to do the work and get to the root of them and make some changes! You can start by not pointing the finger at your partner, and taking a look at what your bottom line is about finances. Do you believe that there is enough money for everyone on the planet? Do you believe it’s your partner’s job to manage or make all the money? Do you believe life is hard and then you die? That it’s easier being a man…or a woman? That rich politicians make it impossible to get ahead? That rich people are evil, that you’re just not good with money, etc. You really deserve to take a good look, otherwise you and your partner are doomed to repeat your unconscious material in the relationship! Don’t bother lying to yourself; the proof is in the pudding. I mean that until you get real, you and your relationships will always reflect your true inner values and beliefs. Sex and money cause the most overall stress in relationships. This week’s topic is going to cover some basics about money and relationship and what you can do to manage your stress about it. Once you identify those, you can do something about them!

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