Spring is a time for renewal. So why not renew our relationship as we leave the cold winter behind us? There are many fantastic ways to spark romance and intimacy in your relationship; below I have revealed 4 of my favorite ones. They are simple, inexpensive and virtually guaranteed to bring back that lovin’ feeling – whether it is gone, gone, gone, hanging by a thread, or desperate for a fresh breath of creativity or new life!

1. Romantic Date Idea – If you’ve been dating or married for a while, having a romantic date night is sure to bring back the spark. Send the kids to a friend’s house for a sleepover or spend the night at a hotel (my personal favorite, wink). “Hotel dates” are romantic because they seem to add an element of seduction. Whether at home or in a hotel, kick it up a notch and play some games like role-playing or pretending you are strangers. Be creative – this is fun – believe me!

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Ray Asked:

“My wife and I have been married 2 years this Monday. Lately she has been less and less intimate or affectionate if ever at all. The only time she seems to want to be intimate is if she is just “trying to make me happy”. We used to make love almost everyday when we were younger. She says she is stressed, but I mean so am I with work and all that goes on but I always would make time for sex. She gets very upset if I bring it up. She is the love of my life I want to feel like I am the same to her. What should I do?? Its so frustrating getting denied over and over and not feeling “wanted”. FYI we have no children and have been together for 8 years.

- Ray (24, Fresno, CA)

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Derek Asked:

“I enjoy wearing girls panties a lot. Not just a sexual thing but it just feels right to me to wear them. My fiance knows about it but isn’t really accepting it. I try to talk about it but she is getting used too it I believe. Is there any way to try to have her see it from my view? If her and I could go shopping for girls stuff it would officially connect me to my feminate side as I’m lookin for girly things with my fiance.”

- Derek (24)

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Sarker Asked:

“Hi. I am currently hoping to get back with my ex. She used to live with me but I started smoking and things fell apart from there. I have since quit smoking. She has dated and had a boyfriend in the meantime, which I understand. I know that she is currently looking for the long haul, but I am not sure if I am in her mind for that. We have a daughter together and she has another daughter who she let’s me hang out with. She also allowed me to give her an hour long full body massage the other day. But she doesn’t answer all of my texts. I am not sure what to make of all of this. Basically, this might not all make sense. But I am trying to regain her trust and show her that I have changed and hope that we can be life partners. Any help and advice is greatly appreciated. Thank you.”

- Sarker (25, AJ, AZ, U.S)

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Jason Asked:

“Why would my boyfriend rather masturbate to porn rather than have sex with me? He does it everyday and we haven’t been intimate in several weeks.”

- Jason (36, Green Bay, WI. USA)

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Kylie Asked:

“I need help coming up with ideas for my long distance relationship. My current problem is figuring out what to do in an all day Skype video call.

My boyfriend and I have never met in person, He lives in Canada while I’m in the U.S. We’ve known one another for almost 6 years, and started ‘dating’ 2 and a half years ago. I can’t say I trust anyone more than I trust him. We’re the same age, both just turning 17 within the past few months, but we’ve never tried to… “sext” or “cyber.”

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Lizard-Thing Asked:

“I really hope that you can answer me even if you don’t print my question. I have a gorgeous, affectionate, warm, amazing, hot girlfriend of 3 years. I’m even more in love with her now than I was when we first got together.

However, there is a recurring problem that we haven’t been able to conquer so far. Despite being such a warm, loving, affectionate, touchy-feely person (which I love), she will freeze, stone-cold, at certain times when she panics. It takes a specific kind of situation to cause this reaction, and even then its not consistent (sometimes she’ll just freak out instead of becoming unresponsive!). However, a few scenarios that occasionally cause this reaction are:

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Like everything else, relationships go through cycles and phases…sometimes relationships face really long, long, harsh, lonely droughts, or painfully drawn-out intense periods, or perhaps you’re currently enjoying the “pink cloud” effect of a new love! Wherever you find yourself, I am here to help you get ready for Spring, the time to come out of the darkness into the light, renew, fluff up, or just take yourself in a fresh direction! Here’s your checklist so you can get started right away.

Relationships of the romantic kind typically fall into three categories: ME, THEM and WE.

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Anna Asked:

“I have been with my Bf for 6 years. We broke up about a year ago. Basically I grew up in a broken home and had a lot of things I needed to work on. We broke up for about 6 months still talking here and there. I have worked on a lot of things and we worked things out. Well he asked me to move in again (we used to live toghether before we broke up). The day before I was to move in I asked him if he saw us getting married. He said he didn’t know and I didn’t move in. The reason he explained he doesn’t know is as I said before I come from a broken home. This is one of the reasons he says he respects me and loves me is that despite what ive been through and my family I have come so far. But now it’s a catch 22. This past christmas is what really made him think, my mom and my uncle go into a fist fight on christmas. He says that he doesn’t want our kids to be around our family and this wont be compromised because they are adults. Which I agree to some degree. But at the same time he says that he doesnt know whether he wants to raise a kid not knowing their family. I just dont know whether I should wait things out or walk away. I mean it’s easy to say that my family wont really be around but I think it’s different when you have a kid involved. One of the things that scares me is that the guys I have discussed this with say they dont know what they would do if they loved a girl and were in the same situation. Do I continue to wait this out or is it time to walk away?”

- Anna (Los Angeles, CA)

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Izzy Asked:

“Theres this guy who i have really liked for a while and i finally told him….he told me that he had always liked me to and he loves me. BUT he still has a girlfriend…she lives in another state and he only talks to her through social networking sites like facebook and myspace.  Also he tries to keep our relationship in secret from other people like our friends.  I really love him and i want his other girlfriend out of the picture…..so what should i do???”

- Izzy (Chicago, IL, USA)

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