Tasha Asked:

“I am tasha, live in florida, and am 28. i go to school for nursing. i have a part time job for a security company.my little sister lives with me from georgia. my mother helping me paying my rent. i’ve been with my boyfriend for 3 years, still he was living with his baby mama, then he lost his job. he has a kid with her. he asked moviong with me, i let him because i thought since i am in school, and things not going good for my mother in georgia with her husband, he can help me by splitting the bills in the house. He said yes. he moved in august 2010 since then he never give me money for rent, he hates my little sister in the house, he doesnt talk to her,when am at work if my little sister needs a ride to go buy food or somthing, he wont give it to her. i am still paying the full rent, he give half for the electricity. i am still giving food. if he cook, my sister is in the house, he wont give to her, instead he would write a note for not to touch it. if i tell him my rent miss 100$ more, he would pretend he would hussle out there to give it to me. he dont go look for a job,stay on the computer 24/7 browsing around. now i dont feel him anymore, i dont have sex with him anymore. i am tired of him in the house. he receiving 600 every two weeks from unemplyment, eventhough he give 300$ for his kid a month but still. when he was at his baby mama house he used to pay bills,why when he’s here he dont want to help me, when he knows i work partime for security and i go to school. i don’t know what to do, i dont feel him anymore. as soon that i told him i am moving some place else, he crazy out there to look for a job because he gona be on his own. i feel like his using me. please tell me what to do?”

- Tashs (28, Lauderdale, Florida)

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Spartan Asked:

“Alright so heres the break down, i’m in love with my best friend, and she had had a bad breakup with my other best friend, but i loved her before then and i tried to drown the feeling by trying to convince myself i had feeling for someone else, and had my friend play wing woman so now thats biting me. But because of her breakup she doesn’t want to take a chance because she doesn’t want to get hurt and she doesn’t want to hurt anyone else.

AND this leads me to part two, she has trust issues and doesn’t want to give her heart to anyone because she doesn’t want to hurt them, but i wouldn’t let it hurt me and for the final portion of my story, its not that she doesn’t love me, its that she doesn’t WANT to love me. 
i just want a chance”

- Spartan (20, Podunk, OR)

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Maggi Asked:

“My boyfriend and I broke up. Fine, I moved on. Then he asked me if I would consider being his mistress. Specifically, that he is approaching monogamy with his new girlfriend but is conflicted about me, misses me, and asked if I would consider getting together occasionally for intellectual, emotional and sexual enjoyment. I answered, jokingly, Sure, I rally love Barney’s gift cards, baubles from Tiffany’s and Armani dresses. How do I really convince myself to not see him again?”

- Maggi (50, Bainbridge Island,  WA)

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Rob Asked:

“I’ve met this girl that just turned my life around. Have you ever had that feeling when all the pieces just fall into place? Well that is what i felt. She is too perfect to be true. Same tastes in everything and she makes me laugh and happy and the other way around. But she let me know that she doesn’t want a relationship now. Besides that I allready told her my feelings , and she said we need to set some limits because she really wants us to be friends. What can I do to not make the situation awkward? I want more , but i don’t want to lose her.”

- Rob (19, Cluj , Cluj , Romania)

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This is the season to count our blessings, no doubt, many of us having experienced (or brushed close) to so much mayhem and madness in 2010. Yet one gift stands out from the rest of our many blessings this year.

As our iconic culture winds towards its inevitable halt, we scramble to redefine our lives, reclaim our values and reprioritize what’s really important. It seems Love really and truly is in the air.  A new kind of humanity is emerging from the ashes, people gathering together as we leave behind the ME generation for the greater WE, learning its song as we clear away the wreckage and join hands for a better tomorrow, right now! And what could be more delicious than fulfilling our heart’s greatest desires…together?

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Birthdays are a time for the celebration of life! Our birth is the celebration of the love our parents once shared with each other (regardless of how it played out). So for me, birthdays are all about giving; so my gift for you this week is a gift that is sure to keep on giving.

Today, I would like to give you the gift of gratitude. Gratitude is the ability to be grateful for all that we have in our lives. I am incredibly grateful to all the people with whom I share my life: my family, my friends and my loyal readers who know they can look to my articles for effective ways to increase the love and beauty of their romantic relationship.

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Did you know there is no proof that the holidays increase our feelings of depression or “blues”? That actually, it’s the stories we have associated with the holidays that are the culprits! Whether you’re up on the latest scientific studies or not, this is GREAT news. Because according to leading research scientists like Dawson Church and Jeff Schweitzer, these old beliefs need to be “fed” in order to be activated, so it’s simply a matter of identifying and changing the meaning we have assigned to these stories and beliefs. We hold the power to lift the fog, making room to choose something preferable!

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Olivia Asked:

“I’ve been with my boyfriend for nearly five months and I love him deeply. However he’s quite outspoken and likes to push boundaries, like messing around in public and saying rude things about people within earshot, which I find highly embarrassing. I really enjoy spending time with him by ourselves and with his friends but I’m tense and nervous when he’s around my friends in case he says something weird. I hate this as I fell in love with him for the way he was but sometimes I think he takes it too far and embarrasses me and doesn’t seem to care what he’s doing. At times I feel so ashamed of myself because if I did truly love him I would want him to be himself, and now I worry that I want to change him, which I shouldn’t. I have said at times when he’s embarrassed me but he doesn’t seem to take it on board- last time I was very upset with him and when I bought it up he laughed at me. Please give me some advice- I know I shouldn’t care what people think but I would love it if he got on well with my friends and family. Thank you!”

- Olivia (19, Lincoln, Lincolnshire, UK)

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