Annie Asked:

“My husband of 19 yrs was just caught having an affair. It was going on for 2 1/2 years. he has been begging, pleading etc….that it was a mistake and he only wants me and the kids. I believe he is close to a nervous breakdown. Here is were my question comes in. The only place they ever saw eachother was at her apartment during the day for sex. 2-3x a month. He never bought her anything, took her anywhere or gave her any money. She confirmed this so it has to be true. He insists he never cared for her it was only sex. He never told her he loved her. I know he isnt lying because she is mad at him now and trying to talk to me. He called her in front of me and told her I love my wife, you were only sex, even called her a whore, she freaked . Could it be true to have a 2 1/2 yr affair and have no feelings for her?????”

- Annie (46, Chesterland, OH)

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Melissa Asked:

“My fiance has always wanted a pet snake, and I have always hated snakes. We are going to be moving in together in four months, and his friend recently offered to give him his female pet boa with a glass cage. Knowing how I feel about snakes, he still accepted the snake from his friend. Now it will have to come with us, unless he sells it – which I asked him to do. He refused saying since he was a child he has wanted a pet snake. He feels that if there were ever anything I really wanted, he would let me have it if it made me happy, even if he didn’t want it. Furthermore, he says I will never have to care for it, etc. I am so frustrated because I feel like he chose the snake over me, but he feels that it isn’t a big deal and I should want him to be happy. I am almost hoping someone will tell me I am overreacting, but so far all of my friends have agreed with me. Help! What do I do and how can I handle this, and is it something I should put our relationship on the line for? I feel like he disregarded my feelings by getting a snake, which I hate. I have expressed this to him, and he feels like I am disregarding his by not letting him have what he has always wanted! He feels I’m being ridiculous and over reacting, and our relationship is literally falling apart over this.”

- Melissa (29, Santa Monica, CA)

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Miguel Asked:

“If a woman is infected in anyway can I get infected by just kissing her or giving her oral sex? Or what if I have sex with a condom?”

- Miguel (20)

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Alvin Asked:

“hello! i proposed recently but she said she’s not ready yet. though we’ve been lining together for10 years. and have a 8 year old child. i feel like i’ve been cheated by her. now i don’t know where i stand and afraid to lose my family. what is the best thing i need to do?”

- Alvin (33, Pasadena, CA)

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Amanda Asked:

“I got back together with my ex-boyfriend of about two months. He broke up with me then got back together then broke up again and got back together again. I’m not sure if he is serious about our relationship he says that he is. He barely ever calls me or texts me 3 days will go by before he contacts me. He has one child and i have two. they haven’t played with each other really at all. I haven’t met his family but he has met mine. I’ve met his some numerous times but he hasn’t spent anytime around my children with me. He tells me hates texting and using the phone. How do i know or what are the signs that he is serious about our relationship?”

- Amanda (23, Hilbert, WI)

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“My mind gets the best of me, when I think the best things!”
Love LuCy

Our ultimate desire in life, no matter where we hang our hats, or rest our heads, is all the same.

We wish to love and be loved.
A midst our ultimate desire rests on our shoulders many stresses, fears and perceptions that can tend to take our mindsets away from this very thing.

We, as individuals, do not want to let pride and ego stand in our way of love and support.

We don’t wake up in the morning with the very intention of making it very hard to find peace and care toward and from others.

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Add to the list of recent exposed cheaters NFL star and Today show correspondent Tiki Barber. He joins the likes of Tiger Woods, Jesse James, John Edwards – and these are just the people who’ve been exposed recently. Every time we turn around it seems someone larger than life is being brought down by confessions or allegations of infidelity.

Barber announced he’s leaving his wife of 11 years (who’s eight months pregnant with twins, I might add!) for his 23-year-old mistress, a former NBC intern. It seems like infidelity is spreading like an epidemic and I do believe infidelity and adultery can be treated like a disease, brought into the light, discussed and thereby hopefully rehabbing those who have faced it or succumbed to it. In fact, not long ago it was discovered that there’s a link between a specific gene and the way men bond to their partners, thereby making them less or more likely to be disposed to infidelity.

I’ll have one fabulous relationship; hold the full spectrum of unpleasant human emotion please!”

Used to be, it could bring me to the edge when anyone would tell me to “calm down” or “just relax.” “OH, you think THIS is upset? Well, you haven’t seen upset!” I would declare, and there I’d go as predicted, directly into orbit. These experiences collected and cemented my inherited belief that I was too much, too big, high-maintenance, and ultimately perhaps a bit crazed.

All this was about a million years ago, but I can remember it like it was yesterday. I was in the car at a stoplight with my boyfriend at the time, who just happened to become the human sacrificial straw that broke this camel’s back. He asked me quite simply why I had to be so dramatic. What I heard was, RELEASE THE KRAKEN!

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Ending a relationship is never easy.  Chances are, that relationship you’re ending has been knocking at death’s door for quite some time now.  Maybe it should’ve never begun to start with. The handwriting has been on the wall, but you didn’t have the courage to say that it’s over.  It’s not easy, and getting over the frustration, heartbreak, anger, remorse, and depression isn’t easy either.   Nonetheless, you’re going to make it through this.  Lesson one, realize that separation may be an event, but getting over it is a process! Bad advice from your peers, relatives, and so-called friends is more than likely all, or at least part, of the reason you haven’t had the courage to let go and get on with your life. Your family and friends may have no clue of the stress, and extreme pain you suffer on a daily basis, or they may not know any different themselves. Besides, misery loves company.  Many people prolong dissolution because they just don’t want to deal with confrontation. That is the equivalent of being too tired to take a bath because the longer you wait the more life stinks. If you’re reading this, that’s proof it’s time to break away from the pack. You will have to do this on your own and you can!

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Marshall Asked:

“I like this girl and we’ve been together for 6 months. We broke up due to that she has feeling for her ex and still likes me at same time. she sleeps with me and has sex with me but doesn’t want to commit to be with me for good and i still love her and she cares about me a lot.  what does that mean?”

- Marshall (23, Louisburg, NC)

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