When it comes to approaching and attracting women, most men are clueless.  They don’t know what to say, or how to say it.  They don’t understand how women think about themselves, or other men.

Before you can even begin to have the right set of tools to drive the ladies crazy, you need to have the right tools within yourself. I know you might be thinking this is sappy or corny, but it is more important than you know. In order for you to attract more women, and be successful with them, you need to have a healthy and confident self. Without knowing, growing, and learning about yourself, you will never be successful with women.

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Greetings, friends and lovers everywhere. Rosie, Love Detour’s resident transsexual Goddess of Love and Romance is in the house and ready to expound on the delicacies of transgendered dating.

In the first article on transgenderism I referred to gender as a continuum. On the polar ends of this continuum are trans people who “pass”. Passing is a condition in which the transgendered person blends successfully with their one of the two stereotypical genders. Towards the center of the continuum, or bar graph, are people who exhibit androgyny, or characteristics of both genders. This discussion focuses on the first group, for it is trans-passing that can cause confusion in the intimacy of dating.

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Jamie Asked:

“My name is Jamie and I just got married on July 5th. My relationship has moved pretty fast from the start but everything was perfect. I fell deeply in love with my husband. We connected on so many levels even though we have only been together for two years. A month or two before we got married things started to change. Unfortunately we have had a few family matters that have put a lot of stress on us. I find us arguing more than having good moments. My husband is stressed and I know it but he is handling it the wrong way. Well I believe he is handling it the wrong way. He gets up, goes to work, comes home and crabs about stuff not being done, then goes and plays video games until he goes to bed. This is wearing on me immensely. I feel that all I do is clean and do things so he doesn’t complain and we don’t argue. This doesn’t really work because we argue any way. I lost my good job because we got married so our money situation is a huge problem. We still have separate accounts which I know is a problem. He expects me to help pay for everything and I can not afford it. I am broke and he can still buy whatever he wants. So I am trying to find a second job but I see that this means less time with each other. Which we really don’t spend much time together any way. We use to find things to do all the time even if it was simple. Now he seems to get bored with whatever we do together. At night I do see moments were our love shines for each other but as newly weds I would think that this would occur more often than it does. There are so many things that are changing and I feel that I have no control or I don’t know how to fix it. Please help me save the love that I once had, that I want to keep.”

- Jamie

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It doesn’t matter how long you’ve been together, over time, the fire can burn out like a cheap light bulb. It doesn’t have to, but when we stop stoking said fire, the passion fades and interest dwindles, leaving nothing more but smoldering ash.

Like a fire, your heart can burn, from joy to sorrow, from euphoria to doom. The choice is yours. When you fail to stoke the fire, the flames will die and the heat will cool. You will begin to doubt yourself, your love, your commitment, and your spouse.

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We’ve all been there.  That moment just before we lose our cool.  Whether it’s something as small as someone stealing our parking space, or something really big, we have all had that bizarre moment, when we make that leap from normal and happy to crazed and angry.  It’s funny how that moment creeps up on you.  But it is interesting to consider how it is that one small thing can really push our buttons, and make us lose control.  We all have them, those little pet peeves, little hot buttons.

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The knowledge and skill-set needed to attract and date more women is far different than the knowledge and skill-set needed to have and nurture a serious, monogamous relationship.  When it comes to attraction, flirtation, and dating, women respond to much different techniques than what many men think.  There are a couple major elements that men need to know about when it comes to attracting women.  These elements seem small, but they make a world of difference and will have you heading in the right direction to meeting and dating more women.

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Part One: Choosing the Restaurant

Lets be honest. A restaurant really is not the ideal place to have a first date. The anxiety of choosing the right restaurant, “will he judge me if I order a salad?”, dropping a spicy meatball on your chinos, “I hate this dish, should I complain?”, and the elephant at the table when the check arrives. But despite all of this, people continue to go “food on first”. Despite its potential for awkwardness, the restaurant is a fine filter for seeing if your date has what it takes to make it to the second date, which may also be at a restaurant.

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Here are a few basic reminders that can help you stay in love, or fall back in love with your partner. Love is a two way street, and communication is key. By following these 7 simple steps, keeping things happy will be much easier.

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Walter Asked:

“Me and my girlfriend have a child together, we were separate for 2 years due to school, no contact nothing when she came back December 2007 we met and our daughter was conceived. Well I was involved with another woman back in school whom I wanted to spend the rest of my life with. I gave up the relationship with her, to focus on our relationship with the baby mama. I have tried to talk to the mama to reconnect with me for our daughter’s sake but she kept on pushing me back I was even depressed. When our daughter was 2 months old she cheated on me and it was not her first time but 4th time. I am tired of her I don’t feel her any more must I be with her for the sake of our daughter?”

- Walter

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You’re in bed, ready to sleep or snuggle, but the other side of the bed is empty. Should you worry? Not if your partner is working late or watching the news, but if he or she is staring glassy-eyed at internet porn sites, you may have cause for concern.

If your partner is staying on internet for hours, you want to find out what sites are onscreen. Sexually explicit sites on the internet or other forms of explicit entertainment or behavior can be an enjoyable aspect of healthy sexual arousal and expression. If they become a compulsive, though, sexual addiction may be an issue.

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